A lot of non monogamous couples have rules and boundaries in place. Most of the time they have them to try to protect the couple from external factors that they think would put their relationship at risk. Recently, for the first time ever, I met a man who had a…

A little story about giving someone too many chances — I have been non monogamous for about four years and dated a number of men. I thought I had experienced my fair share of dating mishaps over the years, but I never thought I would experience the triple-whammy of being catfished, disregarded and booted out of a bed as soon…

A recent comment on one of my blogs started with “This is going to sound cruel but….”. After reading my post, the commenter was wondering about my motivation for being non monogamous. They asked if I was actually looking for a new relationship through my non monogamous exploration to get…

Trying to be honest about how it’s going, even if the truth is hard to face — My husband and I started exploring non monogamy almost four years ago. Like many people as we approach the end of a calendar year, we are reflecting on the past and feel it’s time to re-visit the big question: Is non monogamy bringing joy into our lives? For those of…

Spoiler: Writing good non monogamy rules is really hard. — In a post from a few months ago [read it here], I told you that writing our non monogamy rules before my husband and I officially opened up our relationship was the most fun, most energizing conversation topic that we’d had in a long time. We thought we’d nailed our…

Is it really non-monogamy if it’s only until the right monogamous partner comes along? — I recently met someone online. His online profile indicated that he was non-monogamous and that he was looking to meet “awesome people”. I didn’t hesitate to swipe right on him — not only are non-monogamous folks few and far between in my area, but his profile pictures included one of…

The 3 types of people you’ll date if you’re non-monogamous — When I first started dating as a newly non-monogamous married woman I was very curious to see what kind of men would be interested in going out with me. I was not sure who would be interested in what I had to offer. I wondered whether a single guy would…

Why are my dates treating me as their therapist? — I am not sure how it happened but I have somehow become my boyfriend’s therapist and, to be perfectly honest, I hate it. When we started dating, I was super excited. He is tall, educated and ridiculously cute. Plus I am a sucker for redheads and his full head of…

I stopped being jealous of my husband dating other people and I don’t know what that means exactly — If you have been reading my posts you will know that my husband and I experienced a whole lot of jealousy when we first opened up our relationship. I have described it as the raging inferno gut-wrenching kind of jealousy. At my lowest low (or highest peak of jealousy), I…