Four years ago my husband and I opened up our relationship not knowing that we were majorly, and I mean majorly, shaking things up. In those four years, we have learned an almost entirely new way to define and live out our relationship. Although I sometimes think we are hitting…

Seriously, have you ever noticed how little non-monogamy is discussed in real-life conversations? While there’s an abundance of articles, blog posts, and podcasts exploring the topic, it remains an unspoken taboo in everyday interactions. I don’t know about you, but even with my closest friends, broaching the subject of non-monogamy…

If one partner is more comfortable with risk than another, what do you do? — I thought my husband and I had reached the cruising along stage of non monogamy, but it turns out that we have another bump in the road. My husband met someone that he really likes. She’s cool, she’s smart, she’s sexy and he is smitten. When he gets home after…

When I wrote my first Tinder profile and included details on being a 40+ year old non monogamous, married mother-of-three, and accompanied it with a blurry picture of the back of my head, I didn’t really expect that a lot of men would be swiping right on me. But I…

A lot of non monogamous couples have rules and boundaries in place. Most of the time they have them to try to protect the couple from external factors that they think would put their relationship at risk. Recently, for the first time ever, I met a man who had a…

A little story about giving someone too many chances — I have been non monogamous for about four years and dated a number of men. I thought I had experienced my fair share of dating mishaps over the years, but I never thought I would experience the triple-whammy of being catfished, disregarded and booted out of a bed as soon…

A recent comment on one of my blogs started with “This is going to sound cruel but….”. After reading my post, the commenter was wondering about my motivation for being non monogamous. They asked if I was actually looking for a new relationship through my non monogamous exploration to get…

Trying to be honest about how it’s going, even if the truth is hard to face — My husband and I started exploring non monogamy almost four years ago. Like many people as we approach the end of a calendar year, we are reflecting on the past and feel it’s time to re-visit the big question: Is non monogamy bringing joy into our lives? For those of…

Spoiler: Writing good non monogamy rules is really hard. — In a post from a few months ago [read it here], I told you that writing our non monogamy rules before my husband and I officially opened up our relationship was the most fun, most energizing conversation topic that we’d had in a long time. We thought we’d nailed our…