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A Whole New World of Swinging
Our five first experiences with other couples weren’t exactly slam-dunks
My husband and I started off on our journey into non monogamy doing things solo. At first, having just spent 20+ years together in total monogamy, we both wanted to have the opportunity to experience new things separately. Like, super separately. Each of us was craving at that point to have the freedom, autonomy and space to explore sex with other people. Things got real pretty fast, and you can read about that in basically alllll my previous posts, as we navigated the rough waters of jealousy, boundaries, resentments and hordes of other difficult emotions. We eventually decided we needed to hit the reset button and took a six month break from dating. When we re-opened, we were on a better footing and committed to learning from our early mistakes. A major change was that we would try to share more experiences with each other. So we started dipping our toes into the so-called “lifestyle” realm of non monogamy.
The lifestyle, or swinging as it is also known, is about couples having sex with other couples. There are lots of variations on this — same-room, not-same-room, same-bed, full-swap, soft-swap, etc.
We had no clue what we would be comfortable with. So, like many things we do, we just went for it and figured we would…
