An update on a non-monogamous relationship that isn’t going super well
I know it’s been a hot minute since I last wrote about a difficult period in my non-monogamous marriage. Sorry to have kept you hanging. It’s just…. well, it’s been a shitty, awful last few months and I didn’t have the mental space to write about it.
But here’s a bit of an update. Spoiler alert, things still aren’t going super well.
A quick recap on where I left off — My husband had met someone and was developing strong “feels” for her, and I was experiencing massive jealousy, fear and hurt. (You can read the whole story here if you want to go back in time).
Unfortunately, since then, the situation has gotten worse.
My husband is now officially in love with his new partner. He has deep feelings for her and has expressed a desire to have her be part of his life for the long term. On the surface, this desire and these feelings are still within the boundaries of the non-monogamous boundaries we had discussed and within the limits of my ability to handle my jealousy.
The problem (at least for me) is that he now wants to majorly change our non-monogamous arrangement. Oh, yeah, he is also a breath away from leaving me….
In the past, my husband and I had always agreed that we would maintain a hierarchical…
