Changing a Partner Dynamic in Non-Monogamy
Can a Non-Primary Partner Become a Primary Partner?
As many of you know from my previous posts, my husband and I parted ways a little while ago. We’d been non-monogamous for several years but, to make a long story short, he met someone he wanted to be with and didn’t feel he wanted to be with me anymore. Yadda yadda I am now without a husband. Boo.
So, voila, I am suddenly single and navigating brand new waters as a solo-poly person.
Well, that is, I think I am single.
Throughout the storm of my marriage breakdown, I have had one partner, I’ll call him Mark, who has stayed in the picture. Mark’s been around in my life for a while. We started dating about five years ago, and over the years have had an off- and on-type of poly relationship. Some of the off periods were because he was dating women who were not non-monogamous and not cool with me being in the picture. So at those times, I stepped away. Other off periods happened when we hit walls in our relationship — not able to find common ground, or just not feeling the connection. But we have kept coming back to each other.
Over the last year, he has been the one constant in my life. While my marriage broke down, Mark was there. Simply there. He gave me just enough support and care to…
