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From Friend to Predator?
Navigating Very Unexpected Non-Monogamy Disclosures and Boundary Violations
I recently became quite friendly with a friend-colleague I have known for 10 years. As I have gone through my year of grief, following my separation from my husband, he’d been a very kind and attentive friend.
Recently, we transitioned from being work friends to being friends outside of work. I met his girlfriend and even started having dinners at their place and hanging out with them at parties. I was truly grateful for their friendship and invites. As the months progressed, I got to know them a bit better but we were very much still in the getting-to-know-you stages of our friendship.
However, over one evening at their place recently, we strayed away from some of the getting-to-know-you conversations about our kids and work stories and discovered that we were all non-monogamous.
How did that ever come up you might ask?
Well, I admit, alcohol was involved so inhibitions were a little loosened and it went down like this…
The three of us were sitting around their living room drinking our “first” glass of wine and I was trying to explain why my husband/ex and I had broken up. As those of you who’ve read my previous blogs know, the reasons we broke up…
