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Hmmm…is it lack of jealousy or just indifference?
I stopped being jealous of my husband dating other people and I don’t know what that means exactly
If you have been reading my posts you will know that my husband and I experienced a whole lot of jealousy when we first opened up our relationship. I have described it as the raging inferno gut-wrenching kind of jealousy. At my lowest low (or highest peak of jealousy), I would lie in bed waiting for him to come home from a date only to get up and go to the couch as soon as he came into bed. At his lowest low, he broke a door. Yup. It was a nasty period and we were both left really shaken by the depth of our insecurities and jealousies during that period.
Fast forward a couple of years, lots of therapy, lots of talking and we are doing so much better. I no longer wait up for him when he’s out on a date, being calm enough and sleepy enough to simply go to sleep instead of obsessing on what he’s up to. No more doors are being slammed and broken (gulp…). We are the picture of calm, cool and collected when we talk to each other about our other partners and what happened on our dates. We share details about the meals we ate, about funny things people said, about the good wine we drank. It’s all very civilized actually.
