Moment of Truth: Is non monogamy really working for us?

Trying to be honest about how it’s going, even if the truth is hard to face

Liz Sinclair
5 min readDec 24, 2022
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My husband and I started exploring non monogamy almost four years ago. Like many people as we approach the end of a calendar year, we are reflecting on the past and feel it’s time to re-visit the big question: Is non monogamy bringing joy into our lives?

For those of you who have read my previous posts, our exploration into non monogamy has been a roller coaster. We have navigated through burning, seething jealousy, tried out and tossed out way too many rules, spent many hours in couple’s counseling… Yeah…. It hasn’t exactly been an easy ride, especially in the first year.

Over time though, we have slowly started to figure out how to “do” non monogamy. It’s become easier, less raw and more like what we had imagined.

What had we imagined, exactly?

When we first decided to open up our marriage, our hope was that it would help us grow as individuals and as a couple.

My personal motivation was to feel more autonomy and freedom to explore my sexuality with new partners. It was my hope that this would allow me to feel less trapped in my relationship with my husband and that this freedom would allow me to…



Liz Sinclair

Ordinary, middle-aged, university educated, working mother of three in a long-term loving marriage. Oh, and also non monogamous.