Well, It’s Official: My Non-Monogamous Marriage is Over

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I know several of you have been following my stories over the last few months in which I have shared about my husband’s new relationship and how it totally destabilized our non-monogamous marriage.

To catch you up, if you haven’t read my stories or have a short memory:

• We opened up our marriage about five years ago and it was a rough and bumpy ride as we navigated non-monogamy and all the emotions that come with it. We finally found a comfort zone — straddling poly-type relationships while maintaining our family as a priority.
• About a year ago, he met someone new and started dating her. Right from the start there was something different about his energy regarding her. He eventually told me that there was an intensity and something “special” between them that he had never felt before.
• She disclosed she had HSV2 (genital herpes) to him after a few dates. I was profoundly uncomfortable with him being sexually intimate with her because I felt the risk of transmission to him and then to me, and our other partners was too high (I did a lot of research on this). He disagreed big time with my estimation of the risk (he also did his research, but came up with a different conclusion of the data) and felt I was being unreasonable. He decided to proceed with having sex with her.