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When You Don’t Agree with Your Non Monogamous Partner’s Decisions
Navigating an age gap difference that he liked and I didn’t
When we first opened up our relationship and started dating, it didn’t occur to me that my husband might start dating women who were young enough to be our daughter’s BFF. He is 48 years old, two months shy of turning 49, two months and 1 year shy of turning 50 and recently dated a woman who is 26.
Just to put things in perspective on the age difference: She is much closer in age to our daughter than to him. She is also younger than our niece.
So yeah, she is quite young compared to him.
Would it surprise you if I told you this turned out to be a pretty big issue for me? That it really challenged the terms of our open relationship?
When he started dating the 26-year old, I kind of flipped out. (See my post on jealousy, just to give you a small sense of what I went through.) The age difference threw me for a loop. Like, a big one.
The fact that she was young enough to be his daughter was a big problem for me. For him, not so much.
He felt that he had lots in common with her and categorically disagreed with me about her…
