Writing About Non Monogamy: The Truth Hurts

Being honest with myself (and with you) about how things are going

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I have been writing about my experiences with non monogamy for a while. Writing is my way of processing what has happened as my husband and I open up our relationship after 20+ years of monogamy. When I write, I have time to reflect, connect the dots, and learn. But, I have recently noticed that I am having a harder time writing. I find myself sitting in front of my computer trying to write and just not being able to.

It’s not that I don’t have things to write about, or that I am suffering from writer’s block, or can’t write. It’s just that I’ve discovered that it’s hard to write openly. I am realizing that what I want to share are not stories and advice, but deeply personal and emotional experiences.

I am trying to share the dark, hard, honest emotions and insecurities about my non monogamous relationship.

My first few posts were easy enough to write because they set the stage, so to speak, for the rest. They were factual — this happened, and then this happened, and we did this.

I now realize that have to dig deeper and start sharing things that are much harder to share. Things that I…