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What I Wrote in my First Dating Profile as a Newly Non Monogamous Woman
Would anyone want to swipe right on me if I was married?
The last time I was single was essentially in the prehistoric age of dating. Back then, I was young, confident, single and monogamous. Flash forward 20 years, add in a husband and kids, less confidence and non monogamy… well, dating is a whole different ballgame.
When I was last single, 20+ years ago, you met a guy at a bar (how I met my husband), or in a class at university (yup, but that was the guy before my husband), or on a blind-date with the guy from church your grand-mother thought you were a perfect match with (OK, never happened to me, but could have).
But times have changed and when my husband and I decided to open up the relationship I had a small moment of pause: how was I going to meet a man who would want to have sex with me? Did I have to start putting on make-up, downing a few shots of vodka and go to the bar? Or enrol in a university-level course? Or flirt with people I work with??? Blind-date with grandma’s pick was no longer possible unfortunately…
So I did what most people do when they have a question — I Googled it. And yup, the advice is clear. The best way to meet someone, even as a non monogamous woman in her 40s, is online. There…
