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My Coming Out Story About Being Non Monogamous
What happened when my secret was exposed & what I’ve learned about disclosure
I recently wrote about being very reluctant to tell my friends and family about being non monogamous (probably not a bad idea to read that story first). But all of that recently changed because I was busted. Big time busted. And what happened next made me realize that I no longer needed to hide this part of my life from absolutely everyone. But, at the same time, I also learned that I do need to respect that not everyone is ready to hear about my date nights.
It happened one night at a busy restaurant. Like I did whenever I was out on a date, I scanned the busy restaurant room when I walked in. I always wanted to be sure that there wasn’t anyone I knew at the restaurant who might be surprised to see me out with someone other than my husband. That night I must have been distracted. Like really, really distracted. When I scanned the room I failed to see a table full of moms from my kid’s school who were seated, literally, like right there, right across from my table.
So unbeknownst to me, I sat down at the table with my date and assumed that we were free to act like we were on a date. In fact, that night was a special night for us and there was some pretty significant public displays of…
